tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post116316633855401430..comments2023-10-05T09:02:12.228-04:00Comments on it could take 3 months: A WEEK AND A DAYms. chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02369055212101853503noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163771863681621872006-11-17T08:57:00.000-05:002006-11-17T08:57:00.000-05:00I usually just say "It's not that easy for some pe...I usually just say "It's not that easy for some people."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163647839722129602006-11-15T22:30:00.000-05:002006-11-15T22:30:00.000-05:00Before dealing with being infertile, I kinda asked...Before dealing with being infertile, I kinda asked a few people that. It's coming back on me, now, because everyone asks me when I'm going to have one or two or five. <BR/><BR/>I say to them, "We've been trying for a year now and maybe with this new round of pills that the doctor gave us, we might be able to do it." Shuts 'em right up. It also quells the "Just relax and it'll happen" comment which we so frequently get.<BR/><BR/>As a side bonus to this, though, I ended up finding out about a local infertility group by doing that.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170558362946819182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163615653990770912006-11-15T13:34:00.000-05:002006-11-15T13:34:00.000-05:00I just found your blog and have been really enjoyi...I just found your blog and have been really enjoying it. Being more out with people is something I continue to struggle with. The people closest to me know, but I'm also working on a good answer for the people who make insensitive comments without realizing it. Good luck with your trade show!KEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15073443501247626966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163598211667105382006-11-15T08:43:00.000-05:002006-11-15T08:43:00.000-05:00I am much more "out" than a lot of folks, I think....I am much more "out" than a lot of folks, I think. Mostly because I can't keep my mouth shut, but also because I'm just tired of all of this.<BR/><BR/>I almost universally say, "it's not for lack of trying, believe me." <BR/><BR/>I live in an Orthodox Jewish community where one just does NOT speak of such things, so it has a far more shocking impact than you might think.Ms. Perkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06923832430040384294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163437239630295682006-11-13T12:00:00.000-05:002006-11-13T12:00:00.000-05:00I tend to be "out" often (it is real hard for me t...I tend to be "out" often (it is real hard for me to keep my mouth shut sometimes). I think every situation is different so I've said a variety of things, but one of my favorites is, "Well, it's not for a lack of trying."Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163303915039452212006-11-11T22:58:00.000-05:002006-11-11T22:58:00.000-05:00I ususally reply with "It's just not that easy for...I ususally reply with "It's just not that easy for everyone" and usually I get a "sorry" from the offender. Of course occassionally people will ask questions and you will have to decide how much information you want to give. I generally don't mind answering questions if I feel the person genuinely feels bad and wants to know about the process.<BR/><BR/>Hope the period comes right away and you are on day 3 before you know it. Good luck with the trade show.Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771351540802344987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163300424875039302006-11-11T22:00:00.000-05:002006-11-11T22:00:00.000-05:00Surprisingly, I am much better when being asked th...Surprisingly, I am much better when being asked these things in public than I am in private. In public there is always something to say...<BR/><BR/>"Why do you want to help?"<BR/><BR/>Hand them very quietly your RE's business card, and watch them blush. Then, change the subject.<BR/><BR/>"If I had my magic wand I would give my mother grandchildren tomorrow, but alas mine's busted."<BR/><BR/>"Hey, honey, you hear that, we need to start making babies! What do you say we head home and get a jump on it!"<BR/><BR/>Oh, the ideas are endless. It's all about your comfort level.TeamWinkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00750935087962085588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163265630254564442006-11-11T12:20:00.000-05:002006-11-11T12:20:00.000-05:00I think you have to judge the situation, if it's s...I think you have to judge the situation, if it's someone inconsequential then don't bother with the comment. <BR/><BR/>But if it's someone you know, or the C knows I think something simple but not nasty is the right way to atleast make you less uncomfortalbe next time you see them by letting them know it's not ok to make a comment like that. <BR/><BR/>Of course what the line is I don't know. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with the show : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163264720399461632006-11-11T12:05:00.000-05:002006-11-11T12:05:00.000-05:00hey c...good luck with the cyst and the trade show...hey c...<BR/>good luck with the cyst and the trade show...double yuck! but how sweet of your bro to give you a hand....<BR/>thanks for your note, btw...hanging in there...miss you lots!<BR/>peace<BR/>shlomitAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163209064871437452006-11-10T20:37:00.000-05:002006-11-10T20:37:00.000-05:00I just say "We are trying...." and then smile and ...I just say "We are trying...." and <BR/>then smile and nod to whatever advice they have on the subject.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163201777536636402006-11-10T18:36:00.000-05:002006-11-10T18:36:00.000-05:00I am terrible in situations like that.I either cla...I am terrible in situations like that.<BR/><BR/>I either clam up and just smile, nodding my head like a moron and not saying anything.<BR/><BR/>Or, I let loose a tirade of "we HAVE been trying and you have NO idea how hard it is..." and about that time I'm usually on the verge of tears which is quite obvious to everyone within a 10 ft. radius and it's hideously uncomfortable for all involved.<BR/><BR/>Like I said, I haven't found that delicate balance between moron and crazy lady.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163194508303556932006-11-10T16:35:00.000-05:002006-11-10T16:35:00.000-05:00I was never good at coming up with good comebacks ...I was never good at coming up with good comebacks although once I looked at the person like they were crazy and asked "why would you even say/ask something like that?" Like they had just suggested I murder my mother or something. Made them pretty darned uncomfortable which I thought was suitable considering how they made me feel. <BR/><BR/>I like Lut C's second suggestion. And also, I agree that it's not your responsibility to educate or out yourself to everyone. Just do what feels right for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163193073937031132006-11-10T16:11:00.000-05:002006-11-10T16:11:00.000-05:00Oooh, I hate when that happens. I think that your...Oooh, I hate when that happens. I think that your afterthought of "Yeah, but it hasn't been that easy for us." is fine. I've used something like that several times. My grandmother, (I'm out with her) mentioned a few weeks ago that my cousin "sure isn't getting any younger. She really needs to start having babies." I couldn't help but interject with a pitiful, "Well, maybe they have been trying..."<BR/><BR/>You have a good point. I should have a simple phrase ready and on hand when people speak their mind without consulting their brain first.mandolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15570528484019572953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29619227.post-1163184145499333692006-11-10T13:42:00.000-05:002006-11-10T13:42:00.000-05:00I can only think of good quips afterwards. :-/How ...I can only think of good quips afterwards. :-/<BR/><BR/>How about: "Right, and I bet you want to come and help if we have any trouble. Take a number, pall."<BR/><BR/>Or: "Oh, we're accepting contributions to the IVF-fund right now".<BR/><BR/>It's not your responsibilty to educate everyone you meet, you know.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.com